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Does this sound familiar?
Wife: I can't believe we are being interrupted again.
Husband: We never seem to have any time to ourselves.
Wife: I'll go see what she wants..
Husband: Why do you have to go her every time she yells for you. She is already six years old.
Let her work it out herself, for once. This is getting to be ridiculous!
Wife: I know. It seems that every time we are alone, one of the kids interrupts us. But they really need us, you know?
Husband: I really need you. I was right in the middle of telling you something important. We hardly spend any alone time together anymore.
Wife: I'll be right back.
Husband: I don't want you to go to her. I think you are spoiling the kids. They have you wrapped around their little fingers.
Wife : Stop being overly dramatic. It will only take a second
Husband: If you go to her, I will leave. You make your choice, me or her?
Wife : Ugh!!! Why do we always end up fighting about this?
You are not alone. Researchers have found that parenting issues are one of the most common causes of problems in marriages today. Why do we give away our marriage to our kids? Why do so many of us resign from being spouses when we become parents?
"My husband and I never seemed to have any privacy. We have four children, and there always seemed to be one of them between us at all times; even while we were sleeping! Your course taught us how to set limits with our kids and to begin to put our marriage first. The transition was not easy, but I feel as if we have a renewed sense of intimacy again. It is as if we have started our marriage over again." Laura - Scottsdale
There is a difference between adjusting your marriage to meet your children's needs and losing your marriage to parenthood. Half the battle of parenting is won by creating a stable and loving environment for your children to flourish in. We must, however, create limits in our family structure to allow for our marriage to thrive. Our children are "natural and eager consumers of whatever time, attention, and goods and services that parents will provide". It's our job as parents to discern how much is enough, how much is too much, and to enforce the difference.
"The only time my husband and I have really bad fights is about the children. I can't stand the way he undermines me and contradicts me in front of the children. I spend so much time setting up things in the house and he comes in and in one second disrupts everything I've done. I could pull out my hair but then my best friend recommended your course. I couldn't believe how clear and practical it was. It was so easy to begin implementing. My husband and I are finally on the same page. To quote you, we have a "unified parenting front". We do still disagree on quite a bit of our parenting techniques, but at least we talk about it now. Thank you for these tools." Brian - Seattle
Another major issue is the misunderstanding that results through differing parenting techniques. Clear communication is important when any problem crops up in marriage, especially when it comes to parenting. I've often found that men and women disagree about discipline because they approach the subject from entirely different perspectives. . To help your child -- and your marriage -- you have to balance these different approaches before you become so polarized that communication breaks down completely.
That is precisely why I have created this seminar. Follow these easy-to-use steps, and you will find you and your spouse flourishing as a couple within the family structure. In this program you will learn to:
  • Put your marriage first - wherever possible.
  • Create a unified parenting strategy that respects both of your approaches.
  • Learn to respect different parenting styles.
  • Look to each other for backup.
  • Share the reasoning behind each of your systems.
  • Acknowledge that you may approach discipline from opposing perspectives.
  • Take a breather.
  • Save some TLC for your marriage.
  • Have fixed bedtimes for your children, after which you are off duty and can be alone as a couple.
  • Carve out private time for yourselves as a couple.
  • Get sitters and go out on regular dates.
  • Go away for an occasional weekend together without the children.
  • Let your children know that your bedroom is private when your door is closed and that they should knock.
"My wife and I used to spend so much time parenting that we never had anytime left for each other. Even when we went out for dinner, which was quite rare, all we spoke about was the children. We read parenting books and more parenting books. The better parents we became, the more estranged we seemed to feel. After taking your course, we now have made it a priority to put effort into our marriage as well. We now take regular time for us and have set clear limits with the children to allow for that time. Thank you for the wake-up call and for the strategies to achieve a wonderful marriage." Richard - Toronto
Thousands of couples have successfully used this plan to enhance their closeness, through their parenting. They have followed these proven strategies and achieved:
  • More consistent quality time together.
  • A renewed romantic life.
  • A unified disciplinary approach.
  • An understanding about their spouse's natural parenting tendencies.
  • How to work as a team.
  • More fun as a family.
  • A more consistent household routine.
"Our children used to hate when my husband came home. They dreaded how we would inevitably fight soon after he walked through the door. Most of these arguments were sparked by some parenting issues, and the kids hated being the cause of our marital strife. Thank God we were recommended your seminar. We now have a unified strategy in dealing with the kids, and we never fight about them, in front of them. We now really have true peace in our home. Thank you." Hillary - Charlotte